OFFICIAL OUSDAHL FINALLY GOT A TINDER THREAD

[ousdahl]

I think the adult method is just approaching it like an adult either way, whether it’s the apps or otherwise.

But, since you seem to suggest the apps are some method less than adult, what IS an adult method?

Go get gushered at the crooked creek saloon and see where you wake up the next day?

Cuz I done that one too, and honestly, the apps feel more grown up than that.

So far, easier on the liver too.

[pdub]

tell yourself whatever you want, pdub, but yea, every single relationship ends.

now, put some clothes on and get out. There's cab money on the dresser for ya.

Thanks sweetie.

[ousdahl]

Why are you still here?

[pdub]

I need JK's definition of 'ho' here.
Plz don't say my mom, or tk's mom or someone else here's mom.

[DCHawk1]

Plz don't say my mom, or tk's mom or someone else here's mom.

You never let me have any fun.

[TDub]

I need JK's definition of 'ho' here.
Plz don't say my mom, or tk's mom or someone else here's mom.

Stacy's mom

[jhawks99]

I need JK's definition of 'ho' here.
Plz don't say my mom, or tk's mom or someone else here's mom.

I believe his definition was, any female.

[JKLivin]

I need JK's definition of 'ho' here.
Plz don't say my mom, or tk's mom or someone else here's mom.

A sexually promiscuous woman.

[Overlander]

Afraid of marriage because it might end in divorce.

That is how a loser thinks.

[pdub]

So that for JK is what - women who have had 5+ sexual partners in their lifetime?

[JKLivin]

I think the adult method is just approaching it like an adult either way, whether it’s the apps or otherwise.

But, since you seem to suggest the apps are some method less than adult, what IS an adult method?

Go get gushered at the crooked creek saloon and see where you wake up the next day?

Cuz I done that one too, and honestly, the apps feel more grown up than that.

So far, easier on the liver too.

I can only go on my experience - personally and in 25 years of doing therapy with people who are trying to either find or work out a relationship - but it seems like women you meet in everyday life - work, volunteer opportunities, church, etc. - is a better source of quality people.

They tend to share more of your your interests and values, and it helps do the primary work of attraction, which is proximity. I met my wife because her office was across the hall from mine for four years, not because one of us swiped right. My opinion is that apps don't work because you base things on a few pics and some flirty banter, which is a foundation for a meaningless hookup, but not a relationship.

But, again, I'm an old(ish) fart and, depending on who you listen to around here, I don't know anything. If you want guidance on how to marry someone 15 years younger than you and wind up with a 14-month old at age 54 and live in a constant state of sleep deprivation, then I can point you in the right direction. If you want to up your Tinder game, I'm sure there are plenty of ballers around here to give you tips.

[JKLivin]

So that for JK is what - women who have had 5+ sexual partners in their lifetime?

I'm not prepared to quantify that construct. And, anyway, it's my opinion - not something I'd want to hold out to others as a standard. Overlander, who I'm sure has more game than anyone here, will likely have some trenchant insights on both the issue in question and my intrinsic worth as a human being, so I'd go with what he says.

[Back2Lawrence]

But, again, I'm an old(ish) fart and, depending on who you listen to around here, I don't know anything. If you want guidance on how to marry someone 15 years younger than you and wind up with a 14-month old at age 54 and live in a constant state of sleep deprivation, then I can point you in the right direction. If you want to up your Tinder game, I'm sure there are plenty of ballers around here to give you tips.

Well, whoever this is will have a kid that can change his diapers when the time comes.

[JKLivin]

But, again, I'm an old(ish) fart and, depending on who you listen to around here, I don't know anything. If you want guidance on how to marry someone 15 years younger than you and wind up with a 14-month old at age 54 and live in a constant state of sleep deprivation, then I can point you in the right direction. If you want to up your Tinder game, I'm sure there are plenty of ballers around here to give you tips.

Well, whoever this is will have a kid that can change his diapers when the time comes.

Zing!

I hope to be already dead by that point.

[Back2Lawrence]

Oh it’s you? I need a glossary.

[Overlander]

So that for JK is what - women who have had 5+ sexual partners in their lifetime?

Overlander, who I'm sure has more game than anyone here, will likely have some trenchant insights on both the issue in question and my intrinsic worth as a human being, so I'd go with what he says.

No game here.

Met my wife online. The online part was, for me, a way of sifting through women that I found attractive AND shared some degree of personality that aligns with mine. I never approached it as a hook up site. Hooking up isn't that difficult.

Through communication, it was easy to discern how we meshed. Then, a meeting in person to get the real feel. This is the point where 90% of the interactions didn't vibe...for myself or for them.

What attracted me to my wife, outside of the fact that I find her EXTREMELY attractive...both inside and out.... is that she had her shit together. She owned her own home, had her own stuff, was 4 years removed from her first marriage (a marriage that fell apart after her husband decided that they needed to live a life of strong Christian values), and she is very kind and caring.

My wife and I have been together since our first meeting. I have never been happier.

[ousdahl]

I think the adult method is just approaching it like an adult either way, whether it’s the apps or otherwise.

But, since you seem to suggest the apps are some method less than adult, what IS an adult method?

Go get gushered at the crooked creek saloon and see where you wake up the next day?

Cuz I done that one too, and honestly, the apps feel more grown up than that.

So far, easier on the liver too.

I can only go on my experience - personally and in 25 years of doing therapy with people who are trying to either find or work out a relationship - but it seems like women you meet in everyday life - work, volunteer opportunities, church, etc. - is a better source of quality people.

They tend to share more of your your interests and values, and it helps do the primary work of attraction, which is proximity. I met my wife because her office was across the hall from mine for four years, not because one of us swiped right. My opinion is that apps don't work because you base things on a few pics and some flirty banter, which is a foundation for a meaningless hookup, but not a relationship.

But, again, I'm an old(ish) fart and, depending on who you listen to around here, I don't know anything. If you want guidance on how to marry someone 15 years younger than you and wind up with a 14-month old at age 54 and live in a constant state of sleep deprivation, then I can point you in the right direction. If you want to up your Tinder game, I'm sure there are plenty of ballers around here to give you tips.

Take it to the workplace hookups thread.

But yes, in real life is best, you don’t have the weird constructs and relative internet disconnectedness of the apps.

With that said, I’m trying to make the most of the apps by trying to engage in more than just flirty banter, and avoiding the dumb flakiness and ghosting kinda norms. I haven’t ghosted anyone, and don’t plan to.

I’d rather just afford a gal some closure like “sorry but I just don’t think we’re connecting,” or, “thanks for the full body pic but you just don’t have the elite wingspan I’m trying to recruit.”

I’m more like, let’s play music together! Or talk about spirituality! Or start the revolution!

[JKLivin]

I think the adult method is just approaching it like an adult either way, whether it’s the apps or otherwise.

But, since you seem to suggest the apps are some method less than adult, what IS an adult method?

Go get gushered at the crooked creek saloon and see where you wake up the next day?

Cuz I done that one too, and honestly, the apps feel more grown up than that.

So far, easier on the liver too.

I can only go on my experience - personally and in 25 years of doing therapy with people who are trying to either find or work out a relationship - but it seems like women you meet in everyday life - work, volunteer opportunities, church, etc. - is a better source of quality people.

They tend to share more of your your interests and values, and it helps do the primary work of attraction, which is proximity. I met my wife because her office was across the hall from mine for four years, not because one of us swiped right. My opinion is that apps don't work because you base things on a few pics and some flirty banter, which is a foundation for a meaningless hookup, but not a relationship.

But, again, I'm an old(ish) fart and, depending on who you listen to around here, I don't know anything. If you want guidance on how to marry someone 15 years younger than you and wind up with a 14-month old at age 54 and live in a constant state of sleep deprivation, then I can point you in the right direction. If you want to up your Tinder game, I'm sure there are plenty of ballers around here to give you tips.

Take it to the workplace hookups thread.

But yes, in real life is best, you don’t have the weird constructs and relative internet disconnectedness of the apps.

With that said, I’m trying to make the most of the apps by trying to engage in more than just flirty banter, and avoiding the dumb flakiness and ghosting kinda norms. I haven’t ghosted anyone, and don’t plan to.

I’d rather just afford a gal some closure like “sorry but I just don’t think we’re connecting,” or, “thanks for the full body pic but you just don’t have the elite wingspan I’m trying to recruit.”

I’m more like, let’s play music together! Or talk about spirituality! Or start the revolution!

I wish you the best. The dating world is tough.

[Back2Lawrence]

I’m more like, let’s play music together! Or talk about spirituality! Or start the revolution!

[ousdahl]

whoa, 69, nice