Yeah, I'm a BIG fan of "I'm going to be doing XYZ, anyone is welcome to join." Cannot stand the LSAT-type paralysis over managing each and every person's particulars.Shirley wrote: ↑Tue Mar 12, 2024 1:59 pmjfish26 wrote: ↑Tue Mar 12, 2024 12:58 pmI also, even in big groups I'm close with (family or close friends), prefer the independence of everyone being able to manage themselves.
But, I'm not everyone. Others like communal, shared spaces and the organic interaction that comes with them. Me, I prefer "hey, I'm gonna be in the lobby for coffee by around 8:00, welcome to join."I can roll with the punches but actually loathe making decisions by committee, especially with/during my free time. It takes forever, and always, eventually, devolves to the lowest common, (grilled cheese, chicken tendersesque chain restaurant), denominator. You go do/eat whatever wherever you prefer, and I'm gonna be in the lobby for coffee by around 8:00...
A psychologist would probably tell you that I'm reacting to my mother being the enjoys-the-paralysis type.