Unclehood

[MICHHAWK]

if you live by the rule of thumb that "85% of what you read on the interwebz is complete b.s.," what you read on the interwbz begins to make sense. or no sense. depending on how you look at it.

[ousdahl]

I haven't gone back to refresh my memory, but iirc his brother was asked by a lesbian couple to come have sex with one of them until she gets pregnant?

Yes.
That part I think might be embellished ( but rooted, somewhere, in truth ).

Didn't know/remember the "sex" part.

Yea, me neither.

If I recall I presented it as something like, bro says he’s gonna “give his gay semen to his lesbo friend.”

I meant it just in like a donor kinda way. But, if for no other sake than storytelling embellishments, glad illy took it all the way to two chicks at the same time.

[ousdahl]

Wait, just double checked illy’s lesbian couple comment actually ends with having sex with just one of them.

Let’s chalk that one up to me having a case of the Mondays.

[ousdahl]

As someone who has kids, it would be heartbreaking to watch a child made from you, who looks like you, be raised by others. It would cause me significant emotional damage and distress. It would also be emotionally damaging to the child when they inevitably found out.

Which is why sperm donors are typically anonymous and it's not (typically) done the way Ous is presenting.

But hey, there are plenty of dead beat dad's who don't give a fuck about the lives they help create, so who knows.

Yea, a lot about it is pretty unconventional.

But tho it’s being raised by others in a legal guardian sense, I guess my bro is still gonna be part of the child’s life and play some role, just not in a legally responsible way.

But yeah I can’t fully wrap my mind around the particulars.

To me it might be more a sitch like when your roommate has a cool dog. You get to hang with it and play with it and take it for runs thru the park for the sake of a good wingman, but if it jumps the fence and bites the mailman, you’re not the one liable for that shit.

[DeletedUser]

Sounds incredibly unhealthy and unfair to the child. Especially once they hit about 8-10 years old and start asking questions.

[ousdahl]

I dunno, hopefully my brother’s not a deadbeat dad who don’t give a fuck about the lives they help create

[DeletedUser]

Well, based on his thinking this is a good idea, it at minimum indicates he's got some maturity issues.

This scenario is a terrible idea. There are better ways to go about this (a lesbian couple having a child).

Makes me wonder if you're actually the "brother" considering this. Because "having no strings attached sex with a lesbian would be allsome".

[DeletedUser]

Also no clue why he'd tell your parents before it even happens and a successful pregnancy is well underway.

As someone who told my parents too early after my wife and Is first pregnancy, only for a miscarriage to occur very early in the process....seems kinda stupid. We told my parents very early. Like days after a positive test. Waited to tell her parents because her mom was overseas on a vacation, and then a few days later a natural miscarriage occurred (which is common in first time mothers). Then we had to tell my parents it wasn't happening. Her parents still don't know she ever had a miscarriage. It's an emotional process that is best to shared between partners and nobody else.

Also seems sort of surprising the lesbians would want your parents to know. I wouldn't want long lost biological grandparents trying to contact their grandchild as they get older.

But, I'm a logical indivudal who has actually had children.

[TDub]

even in the event that this is partially true (unlikely) its still a bunch if bullshit.

Yea, he's gonna be super involved in the kids life seeing as how he's in Texas and they're in California....totally.

Ous comment about equating it to a dog is fucking stupid. It's clear that Ous knows nothing (surprise!) about kids or how that dynamic works and it's a fucking insane comparison.

If nothing else I hope it's all fake.

[DeletedUser]

If nothing else I hope it's all fake.

Me too.

If true, neither party seems very bright to think this is a good idea. The lesbians or the brother.

I also find it hard to believe the lesbian partner who is not the one getting pregnant would be cool with their partner having sex with someone else multiple times (more than likely) to achieve this end goal. But, there are all sorts of fetishes out there, so who knows.

[DeletedUser]

My 10 year old daughter understands how babies are made. And if she had 2 moms she'd have already asked THE question. And then when the parents told her, well this dude who thinks you're like a cool roommates dog is actually your biological dad, she'd be heartbroken and wonder why the dad didn't want to be a bigger part of her life. OR the lesbians would lie, and then when she was even older and could detect the bullshit she'd feel betrayed her parents lied to her and have significant trust issues.

Storyline sounds like a bad Indy soft porn movie. Which tracks.

[TDub]

In next weeks episode we'll learn it wasn't actual sex, but masturbation and then a turkey baster was used. Cue laughtrack.

See? it's so hilarious. Please keep us for one more season.

[DeletedUser]

Some couples try for years, unsuccessfully, to have children.

This could be a 5 or 6 season series with multiple spin offs. Maybe even a movie?

Like walking dead.

[pdub]

This could be a 5 or 6 season series with multiple spin offs. Maybe even a movie?

I only know about this movie because they shot a scene there at one of my local haunts when I lived in Brooklyn, causing it to be shutdown on a weekend I really wanted to eat there.

No, I did not make any of the above up.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Switch_(2010_film)

[Back2Lawrence]

Wait, just double checked illy’s lesbian couple comment actually ends with having sex with just one of them.

Let’s chalk that one up to me having a case of the Mondays.

You jumped to the wrong conclusion. And we’re hoping for more flair than the truth.

[Back2Lawrence]

1.
As someone who told my parents too early after my wife and Is first pregnancy, It's an emotional process that is best to shared between partners and nobody else.

2.
But, I'm a logical indivudal who has actually had children.

1. Full-heartedly disagree with your opinion it’s best shared between a partner and no one else.

For lots and lots and lots of reasons I’m not going into with you, or this board.

2. Fuck you. And anyone else that has this opinion inside of them, whether they express it or not. Seriously, fuck off. I dislike this ‘logic’ so so much. Again, for lots of reasons I don’t want to share with this board.

[DeletedUser]

1.
As someone who told my parents too early after my wife and Is first pregnancy, It's an emotional process that is best to shared between partners and nobody else.

2.
But, I'm a logical indivudal who has actually had children.

1. Full-heartedly disagree with your opinion it’s best shared between a partner and no one else.

For lots and lots and lots of reasons I’m not going into with you, or this board.

2. Fuck you. And anyone else that has this opinion inside of them, whether they express it or not. Seriously, fuck off. I dislike this ‘logic’ so so much. Again, for lots of reasons I don’t want to share with this board.

1. Yes, I actually agree with you and retract that statement. I think it's an entirely unique decision for each couple. Painting with a broad brush is a bad idea, almost always. I should have said, for us, since it was so early (like so early we wouldn't have even known if we weren't trying to get pregnant and testing regularly, that we'd have never known she was pregnant in the first place and would have just assumed she was a little late). For us, she would have rather nobody knew than us, and that's all I should have said since every situation is different. Had it been later in the process, we both may have liked the comfort of others. So I sincerely apologize for that statement or any negative feelings it brought to you or others. My bad, for real. It was not a well thought out or well articulated statement and does not reflect how I actually feel. I would never want someone to feel they had to carry something as devastating as that alone.

2. The second comment was mostly about the "roommate with a cool dog" statement. That's spoken like someone who doesn't have kids. I am sorry if that wasn't clear. But, I'll still fuck off. Even though I think a statement like "roommates cool dog" is not a logical feeling a surrogate parent would experience. If that bothers you, I can live with that.

[Back2Lawrence]

Pets are not kids, and people that refer to them as such are dumb as fuck.

Your statement indicated more that he, or anyone, without kids, should refrain from making comments about how kids behave/etc. I could have looked too far into that, and if so, my bad there.

[pdub]

I certainly don't think that people without kids should refrain from making comments about how kids behave but, on recently being on both sides of the equation with memory of my thoughts before and after, I do think it is fair to say, generally*, those who have had kids have a more reliable opinion on the matter.

This applies to many factors of life to those with direct experience and without.

* I say generally to cover experiences where say someone had to be the primary caregiver for a extended period of time but doesn't directly, through biological or legal reasons, actually have kids

[DeletedUser]

Your statement indicated more that he, or anyone, without kids, should refrain from making comments about how kids behave/etc. I could have looked too far into that, and if so, my bad there.

Not your fault, it was my fault. It's a topic that deserved more careful wording than I provided, and reading it back I see how you interpreted it in that way.

I agree with you. Everyone is entitled to their opinion on kids and raising kids, even non parents. And at times, it sure seems (much like I unintentionally did) that people who ARE already parents are some of the worst when it comes to telling other parents, or expecting parents, or people who aren't parents, how kids should be raised, or what should be done, or how pregnancy choices should go/be handled. It's awful at times.

My son plays sports with a family who has a mom who breastfed her youngest a little longer than what you'd typically see and she shared that the shame other moms made her feel for doing something natural was awful for her to experience while it was going on. She'd have to lie about it, hide it, make up excuses for why/when. Something no mother should ever have to go through during an already challenging time.




So, I'll just say if this lesbian couple wants to do this with Ousdahls bro then I wish them nothing but the best, and sincerely hope it works out well for all parties involved, especially the child. There is enough hate and negativity in the world, we don't need any extra.