NewtonHawk11 wrote: ↑Tue Feb 15, 2022 9:39 am
Man that is something that is a struggle for many.
For example, my son was playing in his year-end football tournament. I coach on the team and right before the game, he started to not feel well. I told him to sit off and relax for a bit. Drink some water and see how you feel. He was bound and determined to play, but both me and my wife pulled him. He threw up on the way to the car and when my wife drove him home, he said he wants to play because he knows how much I love the game and am passionate about it.
I've never put any of that pressure on him, but kids feel that. Like he knows I played for a long time, love watching the game and everything about it. But I never force. Shit, he played soccer from when he was 4 to when he was about 9. I didn't force to play flag football or anything like that.
It is frustrating when the kids are forced to play sports because their parents did or want them to succeed like they did. Those are the worst. But kids pay attention to a lot of stuff and try SO HARD to impress their parents.
If your kids want to impress you out of fear or a desire to get attention/love they aren't getting from you then there is a problem.
If your kids want to impress you because they respect you or have a desire to get more of the attention/love they get from you then life is good.
Kids are a trip. I'll never stop being fascinated by the weird little mixtures of my wife and I that we created. They are like constantly evolving science projects. So fun to see what each kid develops into. My two girls have some remarkable similarities and some remarkable differences. So fun.
pdub wrote: ↑Tue Feb 15, 2022 9:44 am
What if it was University of Missouri cheerleading?
Then you disown them.
This is a very wrong answer, for a number of reasons.
Re: Kids
Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2022 10:48 am
by PhDhawk
Once again, I think this is at least partly a symptom of most Americans not understanding math. They really don't understand how unlikely it is that their kid will become a pro, or even a D-1 full scholarship level of athlete.
They should play sports for fun, for health, to make friends, and learn all the other valuable lessons that sports can teach you.
