Kansas Crimson

ousdahl wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 8:14 am tell yourself whatever you want, pdub, but yea, every single relationship ends.

now, put some clothes on and get out. There's cab money on the dresser for ya.

pdub wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 9:14 am
Plz don't say my mom, or tk's mom or someone else here's mom.

pdub wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 9:14 am I need JK's definition of 'ho' here.
Plz don't say my mom, or tk's mom or someone else here's mom.

pdub wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 9:14 am I need JK's definition of 'ho' here.
Plz don't say my mom, or tk's mom or someone else here's mom.

pdub wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 9:14 am I need JK's definition of 'ho' here.
Plz don't say my mom, or tk's mom or someone else here's mom.

ousdahl wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 9:10 am I think the adult method is just approaching it like an adult either way, whether it’s the apps or otherwise.

But, since you seem to suggest the apps are some method less than adult, what IS an adult method?

Go get gushered at the crooked creek saloon and see where you wake up the next day?

Cuz I done that one too, and honestly, the apps feel more grown up than that.

So far, easier on the liver too.

pdub wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 11:11 am So that for JK is what - women who have had 5+ sexual partners in their lifetime?

JKLivin wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 11:17 am




But, again, I'm an old(ish) fart and, depending on who you listen to around here, I don't know anything. If you want guidance on how to marry someone 15 years younger than you and wind up with a 14-month old at age 54 and live in a constant state of sleep deprivation, then I can point you in the right direction. If you want to up your Tinder game, I'm sure there are plenty of ballers around here to give you tips.

Back2Lawrence wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 11:25 am

JKLivin wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 11:17 am




But, again, I'm an old(ish) fart and, depending on who you listen to around here, I don't know anything. If you want guidance on how to marry someone 15 years younger than you and wind up with a 14-month old at age 54 and live in a constant state of sleep deprivation, then I can point you in the right direction. If you want to up your Tinder game, I'm sure there are plenty of ballers around here to give you tips.

Well, whoever this is will have a kid that can change his diapers when the time comes.

JKLivin wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 11:20 am

pdub wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 11:11 am So that for JK is what - women who have had 5+ sexual partners in their lifetime?

Overlander, who I'm sure has more game than anyone here, will likely have some trenchant insights on both the issue in question and my intrinsic worth as a human being, so I'd go with what he says.

JKLivin wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 11:17 am

ousdahl wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 9:10 am I think the adult method is just approaching it like an adult either way, whether it’s the apps or otherwise.

But, since you seem to suggest the apps are some method less than adult, what IS an adult method?

Go get gushered at the crooked creek saloon and see where you wake up the next day?

Cuz I done that one too, and honestly, the apps feel more grown up than that.

So far, easier on the liver too.

I can only go on my experience - personally and in 25 years of doing therapy with people who are trying to either find or work out a relationship - but it seems like women you meet in everyday life - work, volunteer opportunities, church, etc. - is a better source of quality people.

They tend to share more of your your interests and values, and it helps do the primary work of attraction, which is proximity. I met my wife because her office was across the hall from mine for four years, not because one of us swiped right. My opinion is that apps don't work because you base things on a few pics and some flirty banter, which is a foundation for a meaningless hookup, but not a relationship.

But, again, I'm an old(ish) fart and, depending on who you listen to around here, I don't know anything. If you want guidance on how to marry someone 15 years younger than you and wind up with a 14-month old at age 54 and live in a constant state of sleep deprivation, then I can point you in the right direction. If you want to up your Tinder game, I'm sure there are plenty of ballers around here to give you tips.

ousdahl wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 1:43 pm

JKLivin wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 11:17 am

ousdahl wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 9:10 am I think the adult method is just approaching it like an adult either way, whether it’s the apps or otherwise.

But, since you seem to suggest the apps are some method less than adult, what IS an adult method?

Go get gushered at the crooked creek saloon and see where you wake up the next day?

Cuz I done that one too, and honestly, the apps feel more grown up than that.

So far, easier on the liver too.

I can only go on my experience - personally and in 25 years of doing therapy with people who are trying to either find or work out a relationship - but it seems like women you meet in everyday life - work, volunteer opportunities, church, etc. - is a better source of quality people.

They tend to share more of your your interests and values, and it helps do the primary work of attraction, which is proximity. I met my wife because her office was across the hall from mine for four years, not because one of us swiped right. My opinion is that apps don't work because you base things on a few pics and some flirty banter, which is a foundation for a meaningless hookup, but not a relationship.

But, again, I'm an old(ish) fart and, depending on who you listen to around here, I don't know anything. If you want guidance on how to marry someone 15 years younger than you and wind up with a 14-month old at age 54 and live in a constant state of sleep deprivation, then I can point you in the right direction. If you want to up your Tinder game, I'm sure there are plenty of ballers around here to give you tips.

Take it to the workplace hookups thread.

But yes, in real life is best, you don’t have the weird constructs and relative internet disconnectedness of the apps.

With that said, I’m trying to make the most of the apps by trying to engage in more than just flirty banter, and avoiding the dumb flakiness and ghosting kinda norms. I haven’t ghosted anyone, and don’t plan to.

I’d rather just afford a gal some closure like “sorry but I just don’t think we’re connecting,” or, “thanks for the full body pic but you just don’t have the elite wingspan I’m trying to recruit.”

I’m more like, let’s play music together! Or talk about spirituality! Or start the revolution!

ousdahl wrote: ↑Fri Nov 03, 2023 1:43 pm I’m more like, let’s play music together! Or talk about spirituality! Or start the revolution!