jfish26 wrote: ↑Wed Feb 22, 2023 9:42 am
Had the talk with the boy last night. He just texted me this:
Hey sorry for not asking you beforehand but I sent [coach that cut me] this last night: Hey coach, this is fish. I respect the decision you and your staff have made and honestly thank you for the wake-up call that I needed. I will take this as a sign to improve myself, my training, and my effort on or off the field while continuing my [sport]. I hope that I will get to interact with your program as much as I can in the future as I work towards my own personal goals.
Proud dad here.
#stud
I’m super proud. He came to that on his own, I purposefully didn’t lecture. Gotta turn words into action now, but he couldn’t have done better than that.
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 9:48 am
by twocoach
jfish26 wrote: ↑Wed Feb 22, 2023 9:42 am
Had the talk with the boy last night. He just texted me this:
Hey sorry for not asking you beforehand but I sent [coach that cut me] this last night: Hey coach, this is fish. I respect the decision you and your staff have made and honestly thank you for the wake-up call that I needed. I will take this as a sign to improve myself, my training, and my effort on or off the field while continuing my [sport]. I hope that I will get to interact with your program as much as I can in the future as I work towards my own personal goals.
Proud dad here.
It's always nice when you get a confirmation that your kids have been hearing you. Many times, they act like we are the most ignorant people on the planet who understand nothing about the way the world is but every now and then they do something that makes you realize that the consistently provided messages have been received even though they won't admit it for years if at all.
Keep it up!
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:00 am
by pdub
Do kids text their dads things these days instead of just talkin' to em?
Not judging, just getting prepared to be bummed from getting a text instead of a face to face chat.
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:03 am
by defixione
My son texts goofball things and calls when he needs to talk. I like it.
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:08 am
by pdub
I guess I meant when they were still living in your house.
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:12 am
by twocoach
pdub wrote: ↑Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:08 am
I guess I meant when they were still living in your house.
I got texts when my daughter had dumb ideas that she knew I would shoot down or if she needed me to lean on my wife to try to get something to happen that she felt was being viewed in an overly cautious manner by my wife but we also had normal face to face conversations about important things.
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:23 am
by DCHawk1
defixione wrote: ↑Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:03 am
My son texts goofball things and calls when he needs to talk. I like it.
My daughter too.
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:24 am
by DCHawk1
pdub wrote: ↑Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:00 am
Do kids text their dads things these days instead of just talkin' to em?
Not judging, just getting prepared to be bummed from getting a text instead of a face to face chat.
You'll get more texts from your kids than anyone else. But they'll walk down (or up) the stairs to talk to you about stuff that matters.
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:28 am
by jfish26
pdub wrote: ↑Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:00 am
Do kids text their dads things these days instead of just talkin' to em?
Not judging, just getting prepared to be bummed from getting a text instead of a face to face chat.
Well, he's at school (whether or not he should even be allowed to have a phone in school is a completely separate thing).
And more broadly, I don't have a problem meeting him where he's at, in terms of mode of communication. At this age, any authentic, meaningful communication is good communication.
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:37 am
by Deleted User 863
pdub wrote: ↑Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:00 am
Do kids text their dads things these days instead of just talkin' to em?
Not judging, just getting prepared to be bummed from getting a text instead of a face to face chat.
Yes.
We just got my 9yr old her first phone. Last night she texted me from the other room.
Definitely annoyed me. LOL
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:46 am
by KUTradition
my pops texts with more emojis and gifs than anyone i know
whomever showed him how deserved to be shot
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:47 am
by pdub
It's a while from now but at the moment, I sure ain't giving a phone to a 9 year old.
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:52 am
by defixione
KUTradition wrote: ↑Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:46 am
my pops texts with more emojis and gifs than anyone i know
whomever showed him how deserved to be shot
My son has pointed that out to me . . . just kill me right now.
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:53 am
by MICHHAWK
my rule is/was.....no phone before middle school. even then, i think we waited until the 7th grade.
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:54 am
by pdub
Sounds about right.
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:59 am
by jhawks99
I think we got our kids phones about the time they started after school activities.
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 11:00 am
by DCHawk1
9th grade.
And yes, that has made them outliers.
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 11:06 am
by KUTradition
granted it was some years ago, but i didn’t get a cell phone until i was 18 or 19
Re: Kids
Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2023 11:10 am
by ramjet
just a thought for you guys with kids growing up. Spend time with them, make the effort. Don't let it get to "Cats in the Cradle"
pdub wrote: ↑Wed Feb 22, 2023 10:00 am
Do kids text their dads things these days instead of just talkin' to em?
Not judging, just getting prepared to be bummed from getting a text instead of a face to face chat.
Yes.
We just got my 9yr old her first phone. Last night she texted me from the other room.
Definitely annoyed me. LOL
Based on my 9 year old's ability to lose nearly everything, I will not be getting my 9 year old a phone for several more years.
