Sparko, just read this thread, and I'm very sorry for your loss. Tho you might have been expecting it, it still hurts.Sparko wrote: ↑Mon Jun 26, 2023 8:34 pm Appreciate the concern. I went here with it to keep it off the mains. The BIL issue is kind of similar to my situation with my older sister. I was supposed to write mom's obituary and she purposely beat me to the punch by a day. And wouldn't let my sister and family speak at the funeral. It was a crazy control thing. Sparko got the last word and printed his three page obit on mom anyway. Same day as my older sister's tiny obit ran. Kind of awesome. My mom deserved some bragging and so did my father in that context--though he died 38 years earlier. My sister basically wrote him out of our lives. Wrong answer.
And as if that wasn't bad enough, the sibling drama. smh Glad you took the initiative and wrote your own obituary. Large of you to cover the funeral expenses, even tho you shouldn't have had to. Being the responsible one can give you a warm glow, but can also be expensive. I had never written an obituary before and then had to write two in ~ a year and a half. They were the two people I was closest to in the world, and the process was cathartic.
Sadly, I feel your pain, and could write a book on the subject of sibling drama encompassing only the last 1.5 years.
